I haven't met one Harley owner that has actually ridden to Sturgis. A few years ago, just before Sturgis, I couldn't get a hotel room in Rapid City because every room was taken and every parking lot was full of trailers.
One of the past presidents of the HOG group here was an absolute Harley freak. Biggest, best, shiniest, most chrome, louder every year. He bought a new bike every year. His trailer was a toy hauler just for his bike. His trailer also had an equipped shop. It was 30' long. His trailer had more miles on it than any bike he ever owned. Sturgis to Winnipeg is 12 hours on a good day.
He also rode without a brain bucket and was very vocal how a skid lid would break your neck. He died of road rash but ironically, never regained consciousness to realize he was dead anyway.
I love the guys that have the "Been to Sturgis" shirts and they don't know how to ride.
I've never been to a Beemer Rally owing to distance and time and I have never done a formal Iron Butt. Now that I have time and Minneapolis is pretty close I am considering it but I realize that the body is my next hurdle. Stuff hurts in the morning that I didn't know could hurt.
If somebody is going to pass judgement on me because I choose to take care of myself before fitting some arbitrary social expectation, they better have had walked the life I have.
You do the best for yourself first. It's the only way you can take care of the ones you love.